Most people grow older and form some kind of habit that we just cannot seem to break.  Many habits such as smoking and overeating are harmful to our health. When trying to break habits that we have it takes time, patience, and positive thinking. Using a guide will help us to relieve the stress that causes up to overeat or smoke.

There are many guides to help lead us down the road for success in breaking bad habits.
As we begin to journey down the road use your self-talking skills to help relieve more stress that is about to hit us head on.

Everyone has daily stress. There is nothing we can do but learn to thrive on him or her.  There is some stress that we can eliminate to help lessen the heavy load when breaking bad habits. Use your self-talk and ask yourself why you feel the need to smoke or binge eats. Think about the consequences of your actions. Where does a cigarette or more food get you when feeling the urge?

Let me pass on some guides that may help you to stop smoking or overeating.

Once you’ve done some self-talk with positive thinking to relieve them from your mind write how you can change them so they don’t interfere in making constructive changes for breaking bad habits.

Writing goals for not smoking or overeating will help guide you through the rough times.  Make your goals reasonable by not smoking for one day than lengthen the time out for 3 or 4 days.  Set you goals to include your eating habits to get control so you do not gain weight that usually comes with quitting the habit of smoking. Set goals for an exercise plan to work off the weight gain you may have.

When you quit smoking, it is usually going to make you gain weight that can be very depressing.  As you gain weight, you want to smoke. Including an exercise plan in you goals will help the weight gain and relieve stress that is bound to hit. Learn to thrive on stress so that you can reach your goals successfully.

As you reach each goal for not smoking and exercising, reward yourself with something special.  It is a special time when you manage to stop smoking even for one day. 

Learning meditation skills will help relieve stress from not smoking and overeating.  When you meditate it will help you focus on you self-reliance to make constructive changes. You are bound to become stressed. The stress may encourage your need to smoke or eat heavily. Review your goals. Reread your plans as a reminding for you to gain control of your life and put them bad habits behind you.  

Think positive every time you get the urge to smoke or eat by using your guides for making constructive changes. Remind yourself using your self-reliance skills how much healthier you will be without all these bad habits.

Review your list often. When you see that you have achieved a goal, check it and reward you with something you enjoy.  Be successful with guides and plans to relieve stressors that can be controlled as well the ones that come with breaking habits. Guides and plans will get you a long way to living a healthier life.

 
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You develop innovative ideas or creative ideas that will help you to devise a plan to build your self-esteem, or self-worth.

When you brainstorm you be directed to see daylight* that many creative ideas allow you to research to satisfactory including unfavorable aplomb-worth, or aplomb-esteem. You want to put together robust aplomb-applaud, or self-confidence-dependence to build your self-esteem.

To brainstorm however, you have to explore the best methods that work for you. Some of the best alternatives; however is to conduct brainstorming by creating plan to help you succeed. 

Positive self-image-esteem is your positive self-image-value. This is how you perceive who you are. If you perceive you as a stratagem person, then you have a good incorporate of your self-worth. Conversely, if you sense you are a failing soul, then you must authorize brainstorming to take action to learn proficiencies to raise your self-confidence-esteem.

When you brain storm, you will learn to focus while letting go of the negative thoughts that robs your self-esteem. Intensely focusing on your inner weakness and strengths will help you to pull from resources within your subconscious and conscious mind. When you let go of your discomforts, your subconscious mind will give you time to develop and work through your problems.

In addition, when you release, your conscious and subliminal (subconscious) mind works in union as a team to help you enhance your self-esteem.

Both your subconscious and conscious mind will work as a team to provide you skills and strengths shared amongst them to deliver the highest possible results from your efforts.

When you focus you stay in the “here and now.” Staying aware to current affairs will help you to find obstacles that hinder you from having healthy self-esteem. Focus involves using “all of your senses” and to become aware of your wandering mind and focused mind.

Sound plays a vital part in brainstorming. When you listen to the sounds of what you do, it helps you to focus.

For instance, if you are struggling with your typing course, perhaps if you listen to each key tapped, you will start to focus. You also want to use your senses to feel each stroke of the keys you tap.

Next, move to associate what you hear and feel so that you pull them together. This is a part of enforcing your subliminal and conscious mind to work in harmony. Again, both will provide you strengths and skills that work in union.

Body language is another great tool in brainstorming to enhance self-esteem. Using your body will improve your concentration. When you are able to concentrate, it gives you the power of mediation. You will develop deliberation skills, strengths, intensity, and awareness and so on at heights you would never imagine.

When you develop concentration skills, you acquire dependency, which gives you command to necessitate and learn artistries to pad* aplomb-honored, since this is your faith. When you have a sensation self-possessed, you predict excitement.

Self-honored is your comprehension of your worth. Being how you command brainstorming to operate your intellectual gifts in styles to elevate your self-confidence-esteem, you take control of your life. When the mood strikes you can get into* areas that are meddling your self-assurance-reliance, you can see areas where you need to adjust your attitude.

Aplomb-enjoy are cardinal. If you have favorable aplomb-apprize (self-esteem) then you can master self-esteem. Thus, you build your self-worth to a healthy standard.

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Our success, performance to handle daily tasks, and making good decisions depend on our attitude. If we are tired, stressed, worried, in pain or any other negative feelings, our daily performance and long term as well will not be that great.

When we use techniques for enhancing our self-esteem, we will feel good when waking up in the morning to face any challenges that may come our way. When we have good self-esteem, we make better decisions, which encourage others to want to be around us. When we have self-esteem, our confident reaches its peak and we will feel better about our day as we solve different problems that might come our way.

We have many options to build our self-esteem, confidence, etc. Each strategy will give us more energy, and relieve pain as well. Build up your personal health and performance as we build up our self-esteem. Some of the best techniques you can use to enhance self-esteem include writing. Setting goals is another technique to use to enhance self-esteem.

How writing a journey and setting goals help you:
Writing a journal will enhance our self-esteem, confidence and relieve pain that is caused by stress.  Journal writing will let you blow off how you feel without anyone knowing your privacy. You can talk to yourself on paper and reread it as you go along to see how well your writing will change as you begin to feel better about your success in building up self-esteem.

Goals help to give up a better performance by building up self-esteem. They need to be in writing along with how you can reach your goals as each day passes you by. Goals give you a reason to work on how you feel in order to accomplish them to be successful. 

You can relieve pain with goals by relieve some of the stressful things that are going on with your life. Stress causes pain and relieving the stress will help you perform better in making your decisions to building up your self-esteem.

Exercise can help us perform better by relieving stress that causes pain. We will be able to make better decision by exercising and giving us a time out time for you. We will be able to sleep better at night to perform by enhancing our self-esteem with better decision-making skills.

Positive thing will help us in our performance for the future to success. Positive thinking helps us to forget the negative things that tell us we cannot do something. With positive thinking if we make a mistake do it again only with a positive attitude that you can do it right once you learn what way to perform the best.

Our self-esteem plays a lot in the role of controlling our lives. Without self-esteem is it, harder to perform like we want to. We need to unleash our mind power to make changes to build up the self-esteem in our lives.

It takes a lot of skill and practice to changes our ways of doing things but by thinking positive, we can and will do the best performance ever. Practice keeps us fit and healthy, especially when we practice to enhance our self-esteem.

Start today to make the changes to be a happier person. Build up your performance by building up your self-esteem to a better, healthier, and happier future for success.

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The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go though watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.
Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as guest at every Toastmasters’ meeting I go to taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share what we know.

2. Listening.
It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility
We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact
There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around
A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them
Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I
Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile
A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model
There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

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So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?
The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?
Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ’self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?
With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?
It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?
I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?
What motivates you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?
So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it’s something that you really want.

Just don’t ask how it happened, please.

But what’s really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this ‘mind-over-matter’ thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what’s been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it’s better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he’s bound to mock the subject and you’ll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. “I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it’s the government.” ‘Nuff said.

3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?” This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life’s little problems isn’t all that bad, until ‘he’ shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you’re talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. “Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions.” And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. “A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said ‘no’.” It sounds, ‘practical’, I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn’t involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. “Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.” I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. “I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” If it rains, it pours.

8. “I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.” It could get worse when you’re guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” At least he doesn’t smite us with lightning, and I’m thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can’t seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we’re religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”

Ciao!

He was in his room preparing to give a seminar in front of hundreds of people. He put on his shirt, pants, and then reached into his suitcase where his socks always were and panic – no socks.  

For a brief moment he considered wearing no socks. Tacky. Then he thought to himself, “Hey, I’m in Caesar’s Place, I’ll call downstairs and someone will get me some socks.” He figured he couldn’t be the first person who ever forgot his socks!

The operator transferred him to the front desk. He said, “I forgot my socks, I need a pair of black socks. My presentation begins in an hour.”

The front desk person replied, “The gift shop doesn’t carry any socks, and the earliest that any store opens is 10:00 a.m.” 

“Does that mean I no longer need the socks?” he inquired.

 “Well sir, there’s nothing I can do, the gift shop doesn’t have black socks.”

And he repeated, “Does that mean I no longer need them?” “Can I speak to the manager on duty?” he inquired.

(He was afraid he was going to get the following response that he did.)

“I am the manager on duty,” she said. 

The man replied, “Then why don’t you use your managerial skills, and find me a pair of socks?” Start with your gift shop,” he said. “Maybe they know where to go. I expect a call back in five minutes.” 

The front desk manager was now certain that she was dealing with a jerk – and vice versa. (And the man is still sockless in Atlantic City.) 

Three minutes later the phone rings. “The bellman is on his way up to your room with a pair of black socks,” the manager said sheepishly. “It seems as though the gift shop had them after all.” 

The man said, “Do you get what happened here ma’am?” 

“Oh yes,” she said. “I apologize for not knowing that the gift shop had black socks.”

 “No, no” he replied. “The point is that I needed something, and the first thing you decided was to tell me every way that I couldn’t get what I needed. The fact that you didn’t know the store stock has nothing to do with the nonsense of your communication. If you would have simply said, ‘You have no socks sir? Oh that’s horrible! I’ll find you a pair of socks in the gift shop or another store, or I’ll call my dad and see if he has an extra pair he can lend you,’ you could have changed a frustrating hassle to a positive memorable experience.” 

The manager could have made him feel there was hope, and that she was willing to make an effort, to help, instead of making him feel frustrated. That was her choice. She started with “no” instead of “yes”.

OK, now let’s get to the heart of the matter. How does this affect you and the way that you deal with our customers? What are you telling our customers that you cannot do: Out of stock? Close at 5:30 p.m.? Don’t handle packaging of? There are millions of examples of everyday business transactions where the customer is told what cannot be done instead of what can be done. And every one of these transactions is wrong. When a customer has a problem, in more than 75% of the cases, a “CAN” response ends up as a memorable event.  (For the record so does a “CAN’T” response, but it’s a bad memory!) The bottom line is that the customer is only concerned with what you can do. It might be a good idea for you to add this simple “policy” to your thinking: No one is allowed to say what we can’t do without also adding what we can do!  Customers, when they call your company, are looking for answers and solutions – and so are you when you’re a customer. 

It’s not about socks, it’s about training. It’s not about apologies, it’s about corporate philosophy. It is important that you keep the customer loyal, and create positive word-of-mouth advertising. The “can’t” philosophy will drive the customer to the competition with one phone call (and the accompanying bad-mouthing).

 If you’re looking for a benchmark, go back to when you were 4 years old and your mother was reading you, The Little Engine That Could.  “I think I can. I think I can.” 

One thing to avoid is the need for having to be right all the time. Many people make this mistake and in their desire to always be right, they inhibit constructive communication and prevent relationships from developing. Your goal is to communicate better, not to try to win every discussion or treat every conversation as if it’s a contest with a winner and a loser. 

You also must communicate both your needs and goals to other people so that everyone can benefit from this knowledge. People want to know why they are being asked to do things. They want to feel they are part of the process. So don’t let things fester. Confront problems immediately because if they aren’t attended to and dealt with, they invariably get worse. The key is not to burn bridges. It is far more important to create allies, not enemies. This is especially important in the workplace. 

 When working for a company whose goal is to delight their client base by providing quality products and excellent customer service – then what’s truly important to remember is that you are in your customer’s business! Take the time and define your value to customers, not in terms of product, but in terms of results produced by our products and services. See how you can be responsive to their needs!  See your role as being a customer advocate and seek to anticipate and embrace changes that your customers will make when working with you and your organization. Be mindful of the messages you send out to those you come in contact with! 

Being responsive calls for an ongoing evaluation of the following:

>>    Are you always aware of how you are representing yourself?  Be consistently aware of your voice tone, facial expressions, and other body language. 

>>     Are you eager to help others?  People who don’t care keep others waiting. In customer situations, show that you care by being on time every time and by approaching or calling in a timely fashion.

>>    Do you have a positive outlook?  This includes your outlook about your job and the company with whom you are currently employed with – as well as the future. The truth is if you have a negative attitude about these things, it will be obvious to customers and those with whom you work. 

 >>   Do you strive to be the best you can be?  In this quality-oriented world, your attitude must be to continually provide the best service you can. Second rate quality won’t get you success. Strive for continuous improvement!
 

“The customer is not always right. But the customer is always the judge.”      (Nordstrom Training Manual)
Value =   the expectation  ÷  the actual delivery

2.   Diversity of Thinking
“The problem is never how to get innovative thoughts in your mind, but how to get the old ones out.”      (Tom Peters)

3.   Don’t Hesitate to Collaborate

“Lots of times you have to join in a parade that you’re really not interested in, to get to where you are going.”     (George Morley)

4.   Dare to be Different

“You do not merely want to be considered the best of the best. You want to be considered the only ones who do what you do.”     (Jerry Garcia)

5.   The Only Constant is Change

“To improve is to change. To be perfect is to change often.”      (Winston Churchill)

6.   Be Responsive to be Responsible

“You can’t fertilize a field by fartin’ through the fence.”     (Will Rogers)

7.    It Takes Talent to Win

“Most people have lent ability. They’re waiting for permission to tap into resources they’ve kept hidden.”      (Walt Disney)